Whether you've only been married a year or two, or you and your spouse laid down roots in Colorado as a newly married couple more than three decades ago, chances are, you've likely encountered your share of relationship challenges. While it's true that the longer you've been married, the more experiences you've shared and life situations you've navigated, it is also true that even spouses who haven't been together for long may face serious problems that ultimately cause them to divorce.
There are certain issues that can alert spouses that their relationships are not currently healthy. Some may be able to overcome their problems by seeking marital counseling or agreeing to make some changes. Perhaps you've already tried all that and have determined that your most viable option to resolving your problems is to file for divorce. In either case, the type of support you have can greatly affect your ability to cope with your situation.
Issues that often precipitate a decision to divorce
The following list includes relationship problems that often plague a marriage in the months or years leading up to a decision to file for divorce. You may relate to one or several of these issues:
- Many spouses say they experienced situations that caused them to stop trusting their partners.
- Do you feel like your spouse takes you for granted? If so, you are definitely not alone in your struggle as this is a common issue reported by spouses as a key factor toward their decisions to divorce.
- Have the days when you and your loved one spend hours enjoying each other and talking about anything and everything under the sun been replaced by constant bickering and arguments over finances, your children or other issues?
- Has your spouse developed irritating habits that have caused contention between you? This issue is often connected to personality differences and other problems that can drive a wedge between you and your spouse.
It's not uncommon for these and similar problems to lead to divorce. You can't undo the past, but you do have a lot of control over decisions you make as you plan to settle a divorce and move on to a new lifestyle. There are many local resources available to help people in your situation cope with their lifestyle changes.
Divorce need not ruin your life
Divorce isn't easy and the longer you were married, the more emotionally challenging it might be. However, by turning to close friends and family members for support and doing what you can to obtain a fair and amicable settlement, you can make sure you have what you need to move toward an independent, financially secure future.