There is no question you love your children and want what's best for them. Like many Colorado parents, you and your spouse may have disagreed about how to interpret that when you were navigating divorce proceedings. Ending a marriage in court definitely affects children as much, if not more, than the parents involved. You and your ex were hopefully able to execute a fair and agreeable co-parenting plan.
Even after a judge has approved your proposed custody, visitation or child support agreement, any number of issues can arise that create legal complications, which can, in turn, have a negative impact on your children's lives. In general, divorce can be an emotional and stressful process that is difficult for everyone involved. By being a proactive parent, you can closely observe your children's health and take swift action to resolve any divorce-related problem you think may be adversely affecting their well-being.
Issues to keep in mind after divorce
While your children may seem to be adapting well to their new lifestyle, it pays to stay alert to observe their behavior and their health, in case any of the problems included on the following list should arise after your divorce:
- Problems in school: Children of divorce are reportedly at great risk for dropping out of high school. Even if you have younger kids, however, it's a good idea to keep a close watch on their school progress after divorce because it is not uncommon for grades to plummet or other behavioral problems to arise in school as kids come to terms with their parents' divorce.
- Substance abuse: Especially if you have older children, they may be at risk for drug or alcohol-related problems.
- Physical health problems: If one or more of your children have been suffering from headaches, sudden onset asthma, stomach issues or other physical ailments, it could be related to emotional turmoil.
- Psychological problems: Particularly if a parent is not adhering to a court order or is otherwise impeding a co-parent's relationship with children, it can prompt numerous psychological problems, such as depression, insomnia or eating disorders.
Children are quite adaptable by nature; however, they are not always mature enough to know how to process their emotions, especially when they love both parents and do not wish to upset either of them. By reminding your kids that you love them and that they can share both positive and negative feelings with you, you can help them avoid emotional problems in divorce.
How to handle the legal issues
While your initial impulse might be to fight back or take matters into your own hands if your ex isn't obeying a court order, or he or she is trying to turn your kids against you, acting on impulse can often wind up making matters worse. Many Colorado parents prefer to rely on experienced legal representation to help them resolve such problems.