2 ways of limiting conflict with a combative spouse during divorce

On Behalf of | Mar 13, 2023 | Divorce |

Many people who are contemplating divorce realize well before they attend a hearing in Colorado family court that they are likely to face a very combative process. In scenarios where spouses blame one another for the breakdown of the marriage, divorce proceedings can quickly become aggressive and quite bitter.

Some people will even put off filing for divorce specifically because they worry about how their spouse will respond to their decision. Rather than remaining trapped in a miserable and possibly unsafe marriage, it is usually healthier and smarter for someone in a tense, high-conflict situation to move forward with the divorce using careful means to reduce the conflict that their spouse is likely to instigate. These are a few of the things that someone can do to reduce the likelihood of basic communications devolving into screaming fights as the divorce process moves forward.

1. They can communicate in writing

Especially if the people preparing for divorce share children, it may not be very realistic to try to avoid all communication. They will need to share information about scheduling, as well as the health and schooling of their children.

Many couples specifically turn to parenting apps to communicate in writing during their divorce proceedings. Those without children who find themselves needing to discuss some issue with their spouse may want to communicate their concerns solely in writing via text message or email so that there is a clear record of the communication between spouses.

2. They can have their lawyer handle the conversations

Some people will never behave themselves during divorce proceedings, even when they know there will be a written record of what they say to this house.

When someone insists on threatening or belittling their spouse during divorce proceedings, it may be better to have an intermediary field all communication. Having an attorney serve as the primary point of communication between divorcing spouses will frequently make it easier for couples to avoid exclusive conflict. In extreme cases, spouses do not necessarily need to disclose where they live or communicate directly with one another at all.

Instead of accepting that spousal misconduct will be unavoidable during a divorce, it makes much more sense to secure appropriate legal support to minimize conflict and avoid direct communication with someone who is likely to be abusive rather than communicative and supportive during the divorce process.

Identifying and planning for the likely challenges that will occur during an upcoming Colorado divorce case can benefit those who are hoping to move on from an unhealthy and/or unhappy marriage.