Navigating kids’ screen time when co-parenting 

On Behalf of | Jan 22, 2025 | Child Custody & Visitation |

Co-parenting is rarely easy. Even when families have access to all common modern conveniences, managing the stresses of daily life across two households is not a straightforward task. For example, effectively managing kids’ screen time is a growing concern for many modern families. 

With devices becoming an increasingly integral feature of education, entertainment and communication, setting boundaries on screen usage is more important than ever. When co-parenting, disagreements over screen time rules can create friction, but a thoughtful, cooperative approach can help parents maintain consistency in service of their children’s well-being.

Why does this matter?

Excessive screen time can negatively impact a child’s physical and mental health, contributing to issues like poor sleep, reduced physical activity and difficulty focusing. On the other hand, technology can also provide educational benefits and opportunities for social interaction. Striking a healthy balance generally requires both parents to work together to establish healthy boundaries and guidelines. Formalizing any agreements in one’s parenting plan is a good way to better ensure that violations of mutual understanding are enforceable. 

Communication, collaboration and consistency

Effective co-parenting begins with clear communication. If you co-parent with your ex, take the time to discuss your child’s screen time habits and work to agree on rules that prioritize their best interests. If possible, collaborate on the following:

  • Time Limits: Decide how much screen time is appropriate based on your child’s age and needs. For example, younger children might have stricter limits, while older kids may have more flexibility for schoolwork or socializing.
  • Content Guidelines: Agree on what types of content are suitable. This could include restrictions on violent games, age-inappropriate shows and social media.
  • Device Access: Determine which devices your child can use and when, such as limiting tablet use to homework hours or video games to weekends.

Children thrive on consistency, so try to align screen time rules between households. While each parent may have slightly different approaches, a unified plan can help to minimize confusion and curtail opportunities for children to exploit differences. This plan should address a unified approach to consequences when it comes to a child’s violation of said rules. 

Disagreements over screen time can arise, especially if one parent has a more lenient or strict approach. Focus on open dialogue and compromise, keeping your child’s best interests at the forefront. Should you reach an impasse, know that seeking legal guidance and support is always an option. 

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