When you first got married, there was probably nothing more important to you than your life with your new spouse. As time passed, children came and your new family became the focus of all your thoughts and efforts. Few things matter as much to a good parent as the health and well-being of his or her kids.
Divorce can be tough for the children. After divorce, the first thing parents worry about is child visitation and child custody. Each parent wants to be a part of their child's life and wish to have a good relationship with them in the future. It is the right of the biological parents to seek child visitation or custody. All decisions made should be in the best interest of the child.
Of all the issue that come up during a divorce — alimony, child support, division of assets — perhaps the most contentious is child custody. After all, both parents love their child and want to spend as much time as possible with him or her. Emotions run high as both parties try to come to an agreement that suits them and is in the best interests of the child.
If you are divorced from your child's other parent and you share custody, chances are you and your ex will take turns vacationing with your child. While your child may be looking forward to this time away with their other parent, you may not be so excited about it, especially if your ex withholds information about their plans or destination. Even if you're not concerned about family abduction, you have a right to know where your child will be while on vacation with their other parent.
For many children of divorce, there comes a time when shuffling back and forth between mom's house and dad's house becomes a hassle. Whether it happens when a child enters middle school and begins sports and other activities, or it is during high school when their social life and work schedule get full, many older children have a preference on where they want to live. Unfortunately, in many states like Colorado, what a child wants doesn't outweigh what the family court believes is in their best interest.
All children should be able to live their lives free of fear. They should feel safe in the knowledge that their homes are a sanctuary where they are shielded from the threats of the outside world. Unfortunately, for some children, life at home is rife with stress and fear. When a child grows up in an environment that contains domestic violence, he or she not only experiences the pain of watching adults fight, but is also at a higher risk of having serious personal issues in the future.
Parents typically want what is best for their children. Yet, even parents who have a strong marriage may at times disagree about certain aspects of a child's life. This is hardly surprising when you consider that being a parent involves constant decision making regarding everything from what the child can watch on TV to what should be done if the child is having problems at school.
You've decided to end your marriage. The choice to finally move on is extremely difficult, and it is not unusual to experience uncertainty and confusion at this time in your life. But every divorce is different, and your divorce will have unique issues and items that you will need to carefully contemplate as the process goes further. You need to be sure that you know what to expect in your case so that you do not make a decision that negatively impacts your future.
When resolving child custody issues, judges will try to decide what actions are in the child's best interests. But the fact is that when in the midst of a hotly contested child custody dispute, both parents likely believe that they are already aware of what is in the best interests of their children.
When spouses can no longer get along, a parting of the ways might be the best possible option. But a divorce, while beneficial in the long run, can be fraught with emotions. This is especially true if a couple has a child. It is in everyone's best interests if custody issues are worked out amicably, but this does not always happen.