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Prepare for divorce by compiling important documents

In addition to the emotional turmoil you may experience in divorce, any number of other situations may arise that complicate matters or delay your settlement. If you and your soon-to-be former spouse agree that what's most important is negotiating a parenting plan that keeps your children's best interests in mind, and that you're both willing to cooperate and compromise as needed to achieve that goal, you may be able to obtain a swift and agreeable outcome. 

If the two of you disagree about crucial issues, such as child custody, finances or visitation arrangements, or you have trouble discussing much of anything without an argument, you may face more serious challenges than Colorado parents who still get along even though they no longer wish to be in a marriage. As with most legal processes, divorce involves a lot of paperwork. If you seek an attorney's help, there are definitely several documents he or she will want to review. 

Keep co-parenting stress levels low when summer time hits

If this coming summer will be your first since your divorce, you may be a bit nervous as to how your parenting plan will work once your kids are on summer vacation from their Colorado school. Even if you happen to be a home-schooling family who keeps classes going year-round, your schedule may undergo a few changes here and there during summer.  

As long as both parents are on the same page regarding daily routines and special occasions that may occur, things should be okay. If, however, your relationship with your former spouse is less than amiable and he or she seems driven to thwart your parenting efforts at every turn, you may face more challenges than the average divorced parent during summer. In any situation, it helps to know your rights and how to quickly access support if a problem arises.  

Celebrity trend of nesting becomes mainstream

Colorado fans of TV and movies may find themselves following more than the plot line of their favorite series. In fact, it is easy to become invested in the personal lives of celebrities, especially when it comes to their loves and families. Often, choices made by celebrities become the new trends in the mainstream, such as choosing unusual names for children or allowing children to choose their own gender identity.

A recent trend in co-parenting has families watching with interest, especially those parents considering divorce. You may have heard actors such as Josh Lucas discussing a living arrangement they call "bird nesting." While the concept may sound appealing, it has its disadvantages.

Does social media play a role in the likelihood of divorce?

Colorado readers know that social media permeates many aspects of their lives. From posting a picture of what you had for dinner to reconnecting with old friends from high school, people are on their social media platform of choice for extensive amounts of time. Facebook is particularly popular, and there are cases in which what people posted on their accounts came back to haunt them in divorce.

Most people do not sign into Facebook with the intention of getting into a situation that will cause complications and frustrations in case of a future divorce. However, as more and more people share daily lives and personal thoughts in a public setting, it is not surprising that this social media outlet plays a role in many divorces.

Hiding assets in divorce is illegal

When you decided to divorce, you may have thought ahead to various types of issues that could possibly arise to cause stress or delay your settlement. Perhaps there have been ongoing problems between you and your spouse that cause you to worry about certain aspects of the divorce process. For instance, if you don't trust your spouse, you may be anxious about property division proceedings for fear you might wind up with the short end of the stick. Colorado is not one of the nine community property states.

This means the court will not necessarily divide all your marital property 50/50. If your spouse tends to hide things from you, and has made purchases in the past without telling you about them, it's understandable you'd be concerned that a hidden asset problem might occur.

Multiple divorces can complicate matters for Colorado spouses

Jim Belushi has continued entertaining the world long after his actor/comedian brother, John, passed away some 30 years ago due to a lethal drug combination. As many Colorado residents who have lost loved ones can attest, life is never really the same following the premature death of a close family member. In Belushi's case, life after his brother's death included his own marriage -- three of them, in fact.

If you have been divorced more than once and are currently planning to go through the process again, you may relate to Belushi's situation. Belushi's third wife recently filed for divorce. She and Belushi have two children together; however, Belushi also has a grown son from a previous marriage. Challenges regarding child support or spousal support may arise when a divorcing spouse already has court-ordered obligations to another family. You can avoid major complications by knowing where to seek support from the get go.

Modifying child custody orders is not easy

Every divorce is different. You and your spouse may have generously compromised on every issue, or you may have resisted each other to the very end, fighting for your rights in a heated litigation. Even if your divorce was not long and painful, you likely wouldn't want to go through it again.

Still, you aren't alone if you are beginning to feel that the custody arrangement you and your spouse agreed upon at the settlement is not working any longer. The fact is that life goes on, and that often means changes. Additionally, there may be critical concerns about the way the custody order is playing out, and you wonder if it is worth going back to court for a modification.

Do you relate to the issues in Ewan McGregor's divorce?

Being married and raising a family in Colorado (or anywhere nowadays) can be a joyful, rewarding experience but also quite challenging at times. If your marriage is one of many where the challenge has proved too strenuous to overcome, you may relate to others (including some celebrities) who are currently navigating the divorce process. Some people file for divorce after a year or less as a married couple. Others, such as actor Ewan McGregor, have been with their spouses more than two decades before deciding to divorce.

The McGregor divorce involves several contentious issues with which you may relate if you have children. He and his soon-to-be former wife, Eve Mavrakis, are both seeking custody of three of their four children. Their eldest child is an adult. Not uncommon in celebrity situations, the McGregor/Mavrakis break-up has also been fueled by media mentions of supposed infidelity. In reality, this is indeed often a deciding factor in many divorces.

Would a Colorado court agree to advanced child support?

You might have read several recent headline news stories regarding Hollywood executive Harvey Weinstein's unfolding divorce and various other legal actions against him. If you also happen to be preparing for or currently navigating the divorce process, you may find it beneficial to pay close attention to others' experiences, especially when your situation shares similar issues. In Weinstein's case, prenuptial agreements, extenuating circumstances (i.e. criminal charges and numerous civil lawsuits) and child support are key factors.

Weinstein's ongoing divorce is from his second marriage. However, his former first wife has also come forward to submit a unique request to the court in light of Weinstein's present situation. The former couple has two children together, and the children's mother is very worried that Weinstein's circumstances may lead him to complete financial ruin, which could result in serious legal problems concerning child support. Attorneys on both sides will no doubt play key roles in court as this battle unfolds.

Things to do and not do to help your kids through your divorce

Although many people in Colorado and beyond might say it has its rewards, it's unlikely you'd find great numbers who also think parenting is easy. As a parent, you undoubtedly have your ups and downs, days when you're particularly thankful for your family and others when you wish you could go back to bed and start all over. In fact, you may even have days you'd rather forget altogether! It's par for the course that most parents encounter challenges along their journeys.

Some life events seem to prompt more challenge than others. You may have noticed this when you sat your kids down to tell them you were getting divorced. You may have also noticed their initial reactions varied; perhaps one child immediately grew sullen and quiet where another became quite vocal and tried to talk you out of it. You made up your mind then and there that you would do whatever you could to help them through the process that loomed ahead.

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