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Signs that point toward infidelity in a marriage

Perhaps you and your spouse can relate to many Colorado couples who, from time to time, experience relationship problems in marriage. It's definitely not an uncommon happening between spouses. As you know, some problems are more serious than others; in fact, issues such as infidelity often lead to divorce.

You may not be prone toward jumping to conclusions in life, and that is likely a good thing. However, it's understandable that if you suspect your spouse is cheating, you want to take action to confirm or deny the problem, so you know where to go from there. If your marriage ends in divorce, it is critical to know where to seek support.

Does your co-parent have a new partner in life?

When you explained to your children that you were getting divorced, you likely encountered numerous challenges in the weeks that followed as they each came to terms with the situation. You and your ex got along well enough that you were able to devise an amicable co-parenting agreement.

While you may face minor problems as you move on in life, such as those that arise if the other parent cancels a scheduled visit at the last minute or doesn't show up as planned, you needn't expect there to be any major obstacles if you're both willing to cooperate and compromise as needed. However, when a new partner enters the scene, things can get complicated.

Be careful of what you ask for in child custody proceedings

Like most Colorado parents can attest, being a parent is probably one of the most rewarding yet simultaneously challenging experiences of your life. You love your kids and want what is best for them. The problem is that you and their other parent do not always agree on how to interpret that.

In fact, you might relate to those who say that disagreements about parenting are part of what led you to file for divorce. When spouses are not like-minded regarding parenting issues, it can cause a lot of stress in a marriage. If there are other problems as well, the marriage might simply be unable to withstand the strain. Divorce includes child custody negotiations. If you're preparing for such, you'll want to keep several things in mind.

Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie

If you're one of many Colorado readers who follow Hollywood news, you're likely aware that Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are once again making headlines. The two have been in a bitter divorce and child custody battle for some time now. You don't have to be a celebrity to relate to some of the problems this former couple has encountered regarding their post-divorce family situation.  

Child custody is an intensely personal topic; however, in Pitt's and Jolie's case, like many of their film star colleagues, the general public is often aware of such situations. If you're facing a custody dispute and everyone you know is aware of it, it's understandable that it could possibly make your situation even more stressful. 

Prepare for child custody litigation

Like most good Colorado parents, you have your children's best interests in mind when you make life-changing decisions that will impact their lives. When you decided to divorce, you knew the situation would be one of the most significant experiences in their young lives, so you wanted to make sure you developed a parenting plan that provided a lot of support and laid the groundwork for them to successfully adapt to a new lifestyle.

You also knew that your spouse wasn't going to make it easy for you to have custody. You may even suspect that his or her disagreement has more to do with revenge against you than it does with any well intentions for your children. If you plan to go to court to fight for custody, there are several things to keep in mind that may help you accomplish your goals.

Should virtual visitation be part of your co-parenting plan?

As one of many non-custodial parents in Colorado, you were probably able to achieve a co-parenting agreement that provides many opportunities for you to spend quality time with your children. Advanced technology definitely helps make that convenient, especially if your work requires you to travel or some other obligation makes it impossible for you to be physically present with your kids. Various types of electronic devices can serve as tools for virtual visitation.  

Maybe you were obligated to go on a business trip with your boss and you knew it would mean you'd be missing your scheduled visit weekend with your children. Numerous applications and types of software make it possible to chat with your kids, face to face, while you're away. In fact, virtual visitation can be part of your written post-divorce parenting plan. There are support resources available to help address any legal issues that may arise regarding this innovative style of visitation.  

Colorado breastfeeding mothers may relate to Nicole Curtis' case

Colorado fans of TV's Rehab Addict show are likely also fans of the show's star, Nicole Curtis. Her bright, upbeat attitude attracts viewers and keeps the show's ratings high enough that it's about to enter an eighth season. If you're one of many Colorado mothers who is currently facing a child custody battle where breastfeeding is a central focus, you will want to follow Curtis's case, which she has been battling in her personal time offset for the past three years.  

If you have continued to breastfeed your child past the age some consider typical, you may have gotten a few side glances in public or faced rude comments about your chosen means for providing nutrition to your toddler. While you are not obligated to explain your decisions to the general public, you may have to state your reasons in court if your former spouse accuses you of using breastfeeding as a means to interfere in a parent/child relationship.  

Choose living accommodations carefully when seeking custody

You may have expected there to be financial challenges when you decided to divorce. Since you had set aside your career in the early years of your marriage to stay home and raise your children, you knew from the start that you'd be facing a significant lifestyle adjustment once the court finalized your divorce. You've been working from home part-time, however, and have every reason to believe you'll secure a job that provides sustainable income for you and your kids.  

In the meantime, you know you're going to have to scale down and move to a smaller home. If you are hoping the court will grant you full physical custody of your kids, there are several things you'll want to keep in mind when deciding where to live. Your choices may impact the court's decisions. It's also critical that you know how to protect your parental rights if a problem arises during custody proceedings.  

Your divorce places your life on hold

For some people, divorce is a devastating blow. For others, it comes with a sense of relief. If you are one of those for whom your marriage was a constant struggle, you may look forward to the day in the near future when a judge finalizes the end of your marriage and you can move forward into a new life of freedom.

However, don't move too quickly toward that freedom. Until the judge's signature is on the paper, you may be under certain legal restrictions. In fact, Colorado family law allows a spouse to request temporary orders to maintain the status quo until permanent orders are in place. Because the statutes may vary from state to state and even from county to county, it is best to speak with an attorney to protect your rights.

Colorado law regarding traveling with children post-divorce

As you and your children adapt to a new, post-divorce lifestyle in Colorado, you'll likely encounter several challenges along the way. Divorce can be emotionally upsetting as well as prompt financial changes and cause other daily living adjustments. By letting your kids know you love them, that your divorce is not their fault and you are there to support them as they move on in life, you provide the tools they need to come to terms with the situation.

Beyond the implications your divorce has on your children, you also will be getting used to a post-divorce co-parenting arrangement. It would be nice if all divorced parents could get along well and peacefully address all child-related issues as they arise. Human nature and individual relationship problems sometimes lead to discord. You can often resolve problems by referring to the terms contained in your court order. A particular issue many divorced parents face has to do with relocation or temporarily taking children out of state.

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