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Prepare for child custody litigation

Like most good Colorado parents, you have your children's best interests in mind when you make life-changing decisions that will impact their lives. When you decided to divorce, you knew the situation would be one of the most significant experiences in their young lives, so you wanted to make sure you developed a parenting plan that provided a lot of support and laid the groundwork for them to successfully adapt to a new lifestyle.

You also knew that your spouse wasn't going to make it easy for you to have custody. You may even suspect that his or her disagreement has more to do with revenge against you than it does with any well intentions for your children. If you plan to go to court to fight for custody, there are several things to keep in mind that may help you accomplish your goals.

Should virtual visitation be part of your co-parenting plan?

As one of many non-custodial parents in Colorado, you were probably able to achieve a co-parenting agreement that provides many opportunities for you to spend quality time with your children. Advanced technology definitely helps make that convenient, especially if your work requires you to travel or some other obligation makes it impossible for you to be physically present with your kids. Various types of electronic devices can serve as tools for virtual visitation.  

Maybe you were obligated to go on a business trip with your boss and you knew it would mean you'd be missing your scheduled visit weekend with your children. Numerous applications and types of software make it possible to chat with your kids, face to face, while you're away. In fact, virtual visitation can be part of your written post-divorce parenting plan. There are support resources available to help address any legal issues that may arise regarding this innovative style of visitation.  

Colorado breastfeeding mothers may relate to Nicole Curtis' case

Colorado fans of TV's Rehab Addict show are likely also fans of the show's star, Nicole Curtis. Her bright, upbeat attitude attracts viewers and keeps the show's ratings high enough that it's about to enter an eighth season. If you're one of many Colorado mothers who is currently facing a child custody battle where breastfeeding is a central focus, you will want to follow Curtis's case, which she has been battling in her personal time offset for the past three years.  

If you have continued to breastfeed your child past the age some consider typical, you may have gotten a few side glances in public or faced rude comments about your chosen means for providing nutrition to your toddler. While you are not obligated to explain your decisions to the general public, you may have to state your reasons in court if your former spouse accuses you of using breastfeeding as a means to interfere in a parent/child relationship.  

Choose living accommodations carefully when seeking custody

You may have expected there to be financial challenges when you decided to divorce. Since you had set aside your career in the early years of your marriage to stay home and raise your children, you knew from the start that you'd be facing a significant lifestyle adjustment once the court finalized your divorce. You've been working from home part-time, however, and have every reason to believe you'll secure a job that provides sustainable income for you and your kids.  

In the meantime, you know you're going to have to scale down and move to a smaller home. If you are hoping the court will grant you full physical custody of your kids, there are several things you'll want to keep in mind when deciding where to live. Your choices may impact the court's decisions. It's also critical that you know how to protect your parental rights if a problem arises during custody proceedings.  

Your divorce places your life on hold

For some people, divorce is a devastating blow. For others, it comes with a sense of relief. If you are one of those for whom your marriage was a constant struggle, you may look forward to the day in the near future when a judge finalizes the end of your marriage and you can move forward into a new life of freedom.

However, don't move too quickly toward that freedom. Until the judge's signature is on the paper, you may be under certain legal restrictions. In fact, Colorado family law allows a spouse to request temporary orders to maintain the status quo until permanent orders are in place. Because the statutes may vary from state to state and even from county to county, it is best to speak with an attorney to protect your rights.

Colorado law regarding traveling with children post-divorce

As you and your children adapt to a new, post-divorce lifestyle in Colorado, you'll likely encounter several challenges along the way. Divorce can be emotionally upsetting as well as prompt financial changes and cause other daily living adjustments. By letting your kids know you love them, that your divorce is not their fault and you are there to support them as they move on in life, you provide the tools they need to come to terms with the situation.

Beyond the implications your divorce has on your children, you also will be getting used to a post-divorce co-parenting arrangement. It would be nice if all divorced parents could get along well and peacefully address all child-related issues as they arise. Human nature and individual relationship problems sometimes lead to discord. You can often resolve problems by referring to the terms contained in your court order. A particular issue many divorced parents face has to do with relocation or temporarily taking children out of state.

Prepare for divorce by compiling important documents

In addition to the emotional turmoil you may experience in divorce, any number of other situations may arise that complicate matters or delay your settlement. If you and your soon-to-be former spouse agree that what's most important is negotiating a parenting plan that keeps your children's best interests in mind, and that you're both willing to cooperate and compromise as needed to achieve that goal, you may be able to obtain a swift and agreeable outcome. 

If the two of you disagree about crucial issues, such as child custody, finances or visitation arrangements, or you have trouble discussing much of anything without an argument, you may face more serious challenges than Colorado parents who still get along even though they no longer wish to be in a marriage. As with most legal processes, divorce involves a lot of paperwork. If you seek an attorney's help, there are definitely several documents he or she will want to review. 

Keep co-parenting stress levels low when summer time hits

If this coming summer will be your first since your divorce, you may be a bit nervous as to how your parenting plan will work once your kids are on summer vacation from their Colorado school. Even if you happen to be a home-schooling family who keeps classes going year-round, your schedule may undergo a few changes here and there during summer.  

As long as both parents are on the same page regarding daily routines and special occasions that may occur, things should be okay. If, however, your relationship with your former spouse is less than amiable and he or she seems driven to thwart your parenting efforts at every turn, you may face more challenges than the average divorced parent during summer. In any situation, it helps to know your rights and how to quickly access support if a problem arises.  

Celebrity trend of nesting becomes mainstream

Colorado fans of TV and movies may find themselves following more than the plot line of their favorite series. In fact, it is easy to become invested in the personal lives of celebrities, especially when it comes to their loves and families. Often, choices made by celebrities become the new trends in the mainstream, such as choosing unusual names for children or allowing children to choose their own gender identity.

A recent trend in co-parenting has families watching with interest, especially those parents considering divorce. You may have heard actors such as Josh Lucas discussing a living arrangement they call "bird nesting." While the concept may sound appealing, it has its disadvantages.

Does social media play a role in the likelihood of divorce?

Colorado readers know that social media permeates many aspects of their lives. From posting a picture of what you had for dinner to reconnecting with old friends from high school, people are on their social media platform of choice for extensive amounts of time. Facebook is particularly popular, and there are cases in which what people posted on their accounts came back to haunt them in divorce.

Most people do not sign into Facebook with the intention of getting into a situation that will cause complications and frustrations in case of a future divorce. However, as more and more people share daily lives and personal thoughts in a public setting, it is not surprising that this social media outlet plays a role in many divorces.

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